Why Does the Miracle Worker Need to Understand the Subject of Sex? Summary of a Class Presentation

Yesterday’s teacher-member class was sparked by a question from Ken. In the early dictation, Jesus says, “I want to finish the instructions about sex, because this is an area which the miracle-worker must understand.” Ken’s question was “Why is it so important for the miracle worker to understand this?” I’ll summarize the essence of my answer, and then we can continue the discussion we started yesterday in class:

Our truly natural impulses are miracle impulses—impulses to respond to another’s need with an expression of love, which then has a healing effect on them. It shifts their perception (and as a result, shifts our own). These impulses are the whole source of our function as miracle workers. They are what drives that function, since, in the end, that function amounts to nothing more than expressing those impulses. Doing so gives rise to a whole way of approaching our relationships, an entire way of relating to others. Jesus called this “miracle-inspired relating.” In this way of relating, the impulse that we are constantly expressing to others is the impulse to express love—to meet another’s need by expressing in the most helpful way possible our vision of his or her “inestimable worth.”

But something happens on the way to “miracle-inspired relating.” Because we identify with our ego and our body, we unconsciously distort these miracle-impulses so that, by the time they reach consciousness, they have morphed into sexual impulses. The impulse to reach out to another and join with their mind becomes the impulse to reach out and join with their body. And now this becomes the basis for how we approach relationships. It becomes the foundation for an entire way of relating. In this way, rather than seeing people as eternally valuable minds, equal to our own, we see them as objects, who exist to fulfill our pleasure drive. Rather than relating to them at depth, we relate just to the most superficial thing about them. As a result, as Jesus said, our “interpersonal relationships also become superficial.”

Our true function stems from seeing others as they are, as holy Sons of God, but in our pursuit of physical pleasure, all we see are mindless objects. As an old Sufi proverb says, “When a pickpocket sees a saint, all he sees are his pockets.”

Now you can appreciate why “this is an area which the miracle worker must understand.” If he doesn’t understand it, his whole function can be hijacked. As an analogy, if growing your crops is a result of irrigation water flowing into your field, but that water has been diverted to someone else’s field, what happens to your function as a farmer? Similarly, if you want to drive somewhere in your car, but someone has siphoned all the gas out and put it in another car, are you going to go anywhere? To spell it out: Being a miracle worker means expressing miracle impulses, yet if those impulses have been converted to something else, how can you be a miracle worker?

The solution is to work on converting those sexual impulses back into their natural, undistorted form as miracle impulses. And Jesus gave Helen and Bill a practice for doing exactly this:

In a situation where you or another person, or both, experience inappropriate sex impulses, know first that this is an expression of fear. Your love toward each other is not perfect and this is why the fear arose. Turn immediately to me by denying the power of the fear, and ask me to help you replace it will love. This shifts the sexual impulse immediately to the miracle impulse and places it at my disposal. Then acknowledge the true creative worth of both yourself and the other one. This places strength where it belongs.

Here is my rewording of these instructions so that they read like a Workbook practice. First, choose someone you feel a sexual attraction to, and then say these lines to Jesus, slowly, one at a time, waiting for each one to have an effect before going on:

Jesus, I know this is fear.
My love for him/her is not perfect, and that is why the fear arose.
I deny the power of the fear, and turn to you instead.
Help me replace this fear with love.
I acknowledge the true creative worth of both myself and [name].
I give power to love and only to love.

You can do a short form of this while you are in social situations or in public. I often say just that one line: “My love for her is not perfect, and that is why the fear arose.” You can pick your own most effective line.

Let’s continue this discussion. What are your thoughts about this? Do you see your way of relating being hijacked by sexual impulses, or more generally by physical impulses, or even more generally by ego impulses? What would your life be like instead if your whole way of relating was the result of expressing miracle impulses?

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