Our Attitude toward Our Brothers: Summary of a Class Presentation

[Please note: ACIM passages quoted in this article reference the Foundation for Inner Peace (FIP) Edition.]

Here is a list of the attitudes that I covered in yesterday’s class, their definitions, and the Course quotes that describe them.

Appreciate

To value or regard highly or admire greatly. To recognize the worth, importance, goodness, or magnitude of.

“Only one equal gift can be offered to the equal Sons of God, and that is full appreciation. Nothing more and nothing less. Without a range, order of difficulty is meaningless, and there must be no range in what you offer to your brother.” (T-6.V.A.4)

“Give them the appreciation God accords them always, because they are His beloved Sons in whom He is well pleased.” (T-7.VII.6)

“Only appreciation is an appropriate response to your brother.” (T-12.I.6)

“How could the Lord of Heaven not be glad if you appreciate His masterpiece [your brother]? What could He do but offer thanks to you who love His Son as He does?” (T-25.II.9)

Honor

To regard with great respect. To hold in honor or high respect; revere.

“It [innocence] can only honor other minds, because honor is the natural greeting of the truly loved to others who are like them.” (T-3.I.6)

“Give only honor to the Sons of the living God, and count yourself among them gladly.

“Only honor is a fitting gift for those whom God Himself created worthy of honor, and whom He honors….You cannot know your own perfection until you have honored all those who were created like you.” (T-7.VII.5-6)

“You are one Self with me, united with our Creator in this Self. I honor you because of What I am, and What He is, Who loves us both as One.” (W-pI.95.15)

“Today let me give honor to Your Son, for thus alone I find the way to You. Father, I lay no limits on the Son You love and You created limitless. The honor that I give to him is Yours, and what is Yours belongs to me as well.” (W-pI.280.2)

Gratitude

“the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.”

“Your gratitude to your brother is the only gift I want. I will bring it to God for you, knowing that to know your brother is to know God. If you are grateful to your brother, you are grateful to God for what He created. Through your gratitude you come to know your brother, and one moment of real recognition makes everyone your brother because each of them is of your Father.” (T-4.VI.7)

“Gratitude is due him for both his loving thoughts and his appeals for help, for both are capable of bringing love into your awareness if you perceive them truly.” (T-12.I.6)

“Have you been similarly grateful to your brother? Have you consistently appreciated the good efforts, and overlooked mistakes? Or has your appreciation flickered and grown dim in what seemed to be the light of the mistakes?” (T-17.V.11)

“Heaven is the gift you owe your brother, the debt of gratitude you offer to the Son of God in thanks for what he is, and what his Father created him to be.” (T-19.IV.D.19)

“Thus does each one who seems to tempt you to be angry represent your savior from the prison house of death. And so you owe him thanks instead of pain.” (W-pI.192.9)

“Meanwhile he [the therapist] must learn, and his patients are the means sent to him for his learning. What could he be but grateful for them and to them? They come bearing God.” (P-3.I.4)

Faith

“Complete trust or confidence in someone or something.”

“In the holy instant we share our faith in God’s Son because we recognize, together, that he is wholly worthy of it, and in our appreciation of his worth we cannot doubt his holiness. And so we love him.” (T-15.VI.2)

“Have faith in your brother in what but seems to be a trying time.” (T-17.V.6)

“If you lack faith in anyone to fulfill, and perfectly, his part in any situation dedicated in advance to truth, your dedication is divided. And so you have been faithless to your brother, and used your faithlessness against him.” (T-17.VII.6)

“Yet think on this, and learn the cause of faithlessness: You think you hold against your brother what he has done to you. But what you really blame him for is what you did to him. It is not his past but yours you hold against him. And you lack faith in him because of what you were.” (T-17.VII.8)

Trust

To feel a firm reliance on a person’s essential goodness.

“Trusting your brothers is essential to establishing and holding up your faith in your ability to transcend doubt and lack of sure conviction in yourself.” (W-pI.181.1)

Blessing

“To bestow a wish on someone that they will experience the favor of God.”

“When a brother acts insanely, he is offering you an opportunity to bless him. His need is yours. You need the blessing you can offer him. (T-7.VII.2)

“Do not ask for blessings without blessing them, for only in this way can you learn how blessed you are.” (T-9.II.8)

“In every child of God His blessing lies, and in your blessing of the children of God is His blessing to you.” (T-12.VII.2)

“I bless you, brother, with the Love of God, which I would share with you. For I would learn the joyous lesson that there is no love but God’s and yours and mine and everyone’s.” (W-pI.127.12)

“The peace of God is shining in me now. Let all things shine upon me in that peace, And let me bless them with the light in me.” (W-pI.188.10)

“I would bless the world by looking on it through the eyes of Christ.” (W-pII.304.1)

Praise

To express warm approval or admiration of.

“Rehabilitation is an attitude of praising God as He Himself knows praise. He offers praise to you, and you must offer it to others.” (original dictation)

“Would He not make known to you His Love, if you but share His praise of what He loves? God cherishes creation as the perfect Father that He is. And so His joy is made complete when any part of Him joins in His praise, to share His joy.” (T-25.II.9)

Cherish, Hold dear

To hold or treat as dear; feel love for. To treat with affection and tenderness

“Father, Your Word is mine. And it is this that I would speak to all my brothers, who are given me to cherish as my own, as I am loved and blessed and saved by You.” (W-pII.276.2)

“And in our memory is the recall how dear our brothers are to us in truth.” (W-pI.139.11)

Open-mindedness

“Father, we wait with open mind today, to hear Your Judgment of the Son You love. We do not know him, and we cannot judge. And so we let Your Love decide what he whom You created as Your Son must be.” (W-pII.311.2)

Tribute, Love and Care, Deep Concern, Strong Protection, Identification

“All of the tribute you have given specialness belongs to him, and thus returns to you. All of the love and care, the strong protection, the thought by day and night, the deep concern, the powerful conviction this is you, belong to him. Nothing you gave to specialness but is his due. And nothing due him is not due to you.” (T-24.VII.2)

Exercise

I give you the appreciation that God accords you always,
because you are His beloved Son in whom He is well pleased
Only honor is a fitting gift for you whom God Himself created worthy of honor, and whom He honors
I am grateful to God for what He created, and so I am grateful to you.
I am grateful to you for both your loving thoughts and your appeals for help,
for both are capable of bringing love into my awareness if I perceive them truly.
I have faith in you as God’s Son because I recognize that you are wholly worthy of it,
and in my appreciation of your worth I cannot doubt your holiness.
When you act insanely, you are offering me an opportunity to bless you.
I need the blessing I can offer you.