How Do We Behave Toward the Person We Are Forgiving?

I. The true purpose of behavior is to give others a feeling of being forgiven and loved.

Awake and be glad, for all your sins have been forgiven you. This is the only message that any two should ever give each other. (P-3.II.4:10-11)

II. This is done by demonstration, by imparting a feeling that you love the other and no longer carry anything against that person.

To teach is to demonstrate….It is impossible not to use the content of any situation on behalf of what you really teach, and therefore really learn….It is the teaching underlying what you say that teaches you. (M-In.2:1, 3:3,6)

Your holiness…lets you teach the world that it is one with you, not by preaching to it, not by telling it anything, but merely by your quiet recognition that in your holiness are all things blessed along with you. (W-pI.37.3:1-2)

III. This demonstration is the final phase of your own forgiveness process. The forgiveness within is strengthened by being expressed without.

Your learning is the result of what you taught [your brothers]. What you call upon in them you call upon in yourself. And as you call upon it in them it becomes real to you. (T-9.VI.3:2-4)

IV. The form this demonstration takes should ideally be guided by the Spirit.

“What should I do for him, Your holy Son?” should be the only thing you ever ask when help is needed and forgiveness sought. The form the seeking takes you need not judge. And let it not be you who sets the form in which forgiveness comes to save God’s Son. (S-2.III.5:1-3)



[Please note: ACIM passages quoted in this article reference the Foundation for Inner Peace (FIP) Edition.]