The Mutuality of the Holy Relationship

The Importance of Two Minds Joining

Healing is an act of thought by which two minds perceive their oneness and become glad. (T 5.I.5:1)

For no one alone can judge the ego truly. But when two or more join together in searching for truth, the ego can no longer defend its lack of content. The fact of union tells them it is not true. It is impossible to remember God in secret and alone….If you undertake the search together, you bring with you a light so powerful that what you see is given meaning. The lonely journey fails, because it has excluded what it would find. (T-14.XI.8:4-9:1, 9:6-7)

When two minds join as one and share a single idea equally, the first link in the awareness of the Sonship as one has been made. (T-16.II.4:3)

Thus it is a way you go together, not alone….Together is your joint inheritance remembered and accepted by you both. Alone it is denied to both of you. (T-31.II.10:6, 11:6-7)

Salvation must reverse the mad belief in separate thoughts and separate bodies, which lead separate lives and go their separate ways. One function shared by separate minds unites them in one purpose…. (W-100.1:2-3)

Two minds with one intent become so strong that what they will becomes the will of God. For minds can only join in truth. In dreams, no two can share the same intent. (W-185.3:1-3)

The Holy Relationship is the Mutual Joining of Two Minds

You undertook, together, to invite the Holy Spirit into your relationship. He could not have entered otherwise. (T-17.V.13:1-2)

In your newness, remember that you have started again, together. And take each other’s hand, to walk together along a road far more familiar than you now believe. (T-17.V.11:3-4)

Time has been readjusted to help us do together what your separate pasts would hinder. You have gone past fear, for no two minds can join in the desire for love without love’s joining them. (T-18.III.8:6-7)

You are coming home together, after a long and meaningless journey which you undertook apart and which led nowhere. 6You have found each other and will light each other’s way. (T-18.III.9:5-6)

You whose hands are joined have begun to reach beyond the body, but not outside yourselves, to reach your shared identity together. (T-18.VI.11:3)

A holy relationship is a means of saving time. One instant spent together restores the universe to both of you….Time has been saved for you, because you are together. (T 22.VII.6:2-3, 7:4)

And you will not be able to give love welcome separately. You could no more know God alone than He knows you without your brother. But together you could no more be unaware of love than love could know you not…. (T-18.VII.12:2-4)

The ark of peace is entered two by two, yet the beginning of another world goes with them. Each holy relationship must enter here…. (T-20.IV.7:3-4)

In this world, God’s Son comes closest to himself in a holy relationship…. Two voices raised together call to the hearts of everyone and let them beat as one. (T-20.V.1:1, 2:3)

Rejoice whom God hath joined have come together and need no longer look on sin apart. No two can look on sin together, for they could never see it in the same place and time. (T 22.I.1:2-3)

A holy relationship starts from a different premise. Each one has looked within and seen no lack. (T-22.I.3:1-2)

What, then, has joined them? Reason will tell you that they must have seen each other through a vision not of the body….Rather, in each the other saw a perfect shelter, where his Self could be reborn in safety and in peace. (T-22.II.10:5-6,8)

Such is the function of a holy relationship: to receive together, and give as you received. (T 22.V.5:4)

From the Manual—the Joining of Teacher and Pupil

God’s Teacher speaks to any two who join for learning purposes. The relationship is holy because of that purpose, and God has promised to send His Spirit into any holy relationship. In the teaching-learning situation, each one learns that giving and receiving are the same. The demarcations they have drawn between their roles, their minds, their bodies, their needs, their interests, and all the differences they thought separated them from one another fade and grow dim and disappear. Those who would learn the same course share one interest and one goal. (M-2.5:3-7)

Even at the level of the most casual encounter, it is possible for two people to lose sight of separate interests, if only for a moment. That moment will be enough. Salvation has come. (M-3.2:6-8).

From Psychotherapy—the Importance of a Shared Goal

The task of therapy is one of reconciling these differences [between the patient’s goal for therapy and the therapist’s]. Hopefully, both will learn to give up their original goals, for it is only in relationships that salvation can be found. (P-2.In.4:2-3)

Whatever resolutions the patient and therapist reach in connection with their own divergent goals, they cannot become completely reconciled as one until they join with His [the Holy Spirit’s goal]. (P-2.I.3:6)

Yet if pupil and teacher join in sharing one goal, God will enter into their relationship because He has been invited to come in. (P-2.II.5:3)

Teacher and pupil, therapist and patient, are all insane or they would not be here. Together they can find a pathway out, for no one will find sanity alone. (P-2.II.5:6-7)

God comes to those who would restore His world, for they have found the way to call to Him. If any two are joined, He must be there. It does not matter what their purpose is, but they must share it wholly to succeed. (P-2.II.6:4-6)

What must the teacher do to ensure learning? What must the therapist do to bring healing about. Only one thing; the same requirement salvation asks of everyone. Each one must share one goal with someone else, and in so doing lose all sense of separate interests. Only by doing this is it possible to transcend the narrow boundaries the ego would impose upon the self. (P-2.II.8:1-5)

Communion is impossible alone. No one who stands apart can receive Christ’s vision. It is held out to him, but he cannot hold out his hand to receive it. (P-2.II.9:1-3)

Neither can do this alone, but when they join, the potentiality for transcending all limitations has been given them. Now the extent of their success depends on how much of this potentiality they are willing to use. The willingness may come from either one at the beginning, and as the other shares it, it will grow. (P-2.III.2:3-5)

If their relationship is to be holy, whatever one needs is given by the other; whatever one lacks the other supplies. Herein is the relationship made holy, for herein both are healed. The therapist repays the patient in gratitude, as does the patient repay him. (P-3.III.4:4-6)